MENTAL DIET

Hallooooooo!


Fabienne and I had in the last days a turbulent time. First my meeting on Monday with my ex and her opinion about my friendship with Fabienne. Than the discussion about defending Naemi on front of Fabienne, by her insertions. Than a conversation between Fabienne and one of her old colleagues of her ex-Hockeyteam. A conversation that has got different clues of suggestiveness (that only can be builed by both sides of the dialogue). All-in-all, there where different points in reciprocity, that made the other think in a bad-view about the situation of the partner.


And as I thought about these past days, I recall something of my past. It's like maybe eight years ago. I've visited a managementcourse and have been challenged in a new kind of thinking. The subject of that day was "positive thinking". The participants of the course where asked to make the fallowing test:

Think positive for 7-days in one row!

That means / here the roulez:

• Can you concentrate for one week, not to have one negative thought?! In your whole life, it's just one week, but can you??? ;-)
• It's not by having no negative thought, but if one comes up, you don't say/speak it!
• You don't hold the negative feeling or thought!
• It's not a "doll-mentality" like to see everything through rose-colored glasses! But be SMART on the situation and handle it postive!
• Look for positive solutions like: "What is good about this?"
• Concentrate on solutions not on problems!
• Be curious and not judgemental. Because if you judge someone else, it may be, that you aren't a fad better. It may be, you judge the other person just because you're in bad mood!
• And at last a hint: If you smile (whimsically / coquettish), you can pass this easier! ;-)

I know by myself I needed like about 4-5 weeks, before I really passed through this bet/game! And I know what the out-come is! Your environment will also change in your presence. The feedback you receive from people outside, will delight you! Person around you will react different. -A sort of more comfortable to you! ;-)

And now -this morning I gave this duty to my GF! And I will also give me on this test. (Just to proof, that it's possible - again!)

Today's motto: Ah, nowadays we are all of us so hard up, that the only pleasant things to pay are compliments.o.w.

Motivated nutzzzz!

Ciao!

Oh my God! Today all seems a little more nerved! I came in the office at 0930 a.m. (quite late, I know) . But that was not the mess, the mess came from my boss. He asked me about the figures and if we're at average. I told him, that we are 'at' not 'over' nor 'below'. Than he told me how important it is, that we can gain some new business out there and we, as team, wouldn't be AT average, we're BELOW! Hello?! >:-o

I could proof (I had to) him, that the difference, the cap between isn't from him, nor from me either. I showed him, that on every single day, in the last three months, I close one deal! And now, all of a sudden it's no longer okay. We have to move on and get into more business...

Than I got a complain, regarding my morality at work. The usual one! "You can't come in after nine and go again before four! That's not professional! Blablablablaaaa!" I tell you! This sucks! Because on every single day I got a target to fulfil. And this target is on a daily base. And what shall I do, if I fulfil already by noon? -I do my closures and leave! Why shall I stay??? If I do more, than I should, I'm not gonna payed! If they pay me, I work from 0900 a.m. till 900 p.m.! But than they should pay me at least CHF 200'000.- a year! And if they do this, I'll bring them more business in. Becuase I can provide myself with strategies that would bring us farther. But I want to get payed.

Oh yeah, some strange person from AXA-Winterthur asked me, if I'm interested to work there. Negative is, it's an insurance. Positive, they can pay me! ;-) But I think the kind of approach from this person (over a party community page) can't be serious! Probabely it's again a 'possibility' of earning as much you want in direct comparison with a Multi-Level-Marketing system. As I can earn 200'000.- p.a. as I builed my own structure and so on...! But I definitely won't go "devil-on-the-doorstep"! And all in all, I'm trained in B2B not B2C. But well, I'll get a look on this as I do proof any offer. -Because you never know, if it could be the offer of your life...

Hope it's not just a waste of time. As you know, there where different companies asking me in the last months. But all the time long, I just got disappointed. This guys just search for a jerk, who makes their jobs..., resp. they couldn't give me that, what I wanted. I want a straight pay-out per year from at least netto 120'000 box! And I want to get a provision or share of turnover for my efforts!

As long no one else comes with such an offer, I stay... I'm happy as it works out the way here. :-)
Today's motto: My experience is that as soon as people are old enough to know better, they don’t know anything at all. O.W.

Girls

Chepas!

Yesterday evening I met my ex-fiancée and an other feminine friend. We talked alot about friendship and such. And once again I recognize, you can't deal with girls, nor without them. ;-)

My ex for example said different times, that she doesn't like the situation she's in right now. Because she got a friend, who is more feminine than she, with other words: he's a pussy - a wimp! ;-)

And to be honest, I asked her, why she doesn't brake-up this tie! She told me, that she told him already different times, that as soon she would find a man, she would fall in love, she would fire him out of flat. And she can't really hold on a new relationship with an other man right now at this time. But it doesn't matter whatever she told him till today. He won't go away, -he stayed and will stay! Why? Well this is the question I asked myself on my way home. I think, that it's not possible to him. He can't brake-up this relationship to her, because it's the only thing he's got! Yeah, think about! If anything this guy ever wanted is a relationship for a long term, and this actual situation in his life showes him, that this way is the only way a guy like him can get such a relationship, than he won't ever let this feeling pass through! Because it's all he knows! Can't compair with earlier cases. It's new and it's all what he's got.

So how can you go on this? If they can't find a new way of common on their relationship, it's fucked up. There's no way, how they can handle together in future! So one of them has to reject and find a new way of connection. But how? I haven't got a solution on this, but one thing I know for granted. If it's no worth, than you better determine as long it's sufferable!

Than we spoke about me and mentioned on the brink Fabienne. These two girls told me, that sometimes they got the feeling that I'd be wisenheimer, who has to tell you in each situation, how it could be better! And we (Fabienne and I) boast with our higher education. Well I can understand them. I got sometimes the feeling, that I'm tomuch focused on how I or we could make a case turn into something positive. And with this feedback I know, that I got to practice on my communication with people.

In fact, an other person thinks this way about me, it won't be helpful. No, it's hindering! I know from my own experience, that if I met such a person in past and this guy wanted to show me something useful. I didn't give the same effort on it, like by an other person, who I found nice! Does this make sense? Think so! And at least I know on what I can practice secundary each day. I don't want to be rejected by other, just because they think the wrong way about me! And what have I to change? It's not that huge or amazing, it's very simple. I just have to change my pitch of the voice and a little on my tongue. (Need other words - include some deadpan)

In the end of today's blog, I want to thank Naemi (and Franca) for their input ;-) And aswell I hope, you can handle your relationship better or finish it!

Today's motto: Better an end with terror than terror without an end

Many impressions from last weekend!

Salli Zäme!

So many things to talk about last weekend. I try once to shorten this in one row: We went to the movie, visited the church and saw a Mercedes SLR (Limited edition).

On Friday my friends came again along to watch some movie. And after one of those DVD's didn't work out, we watched TV. Just bored and hang around without any efforts doing ;)

Saturday was quite different. Through out day we made our duties. We went shopping and doing household. Later I cooked dinner. Unfortunately it didn't come out the way I wanted. I tried to make a fish in the oven. It should have been a baked fish in a withe wine sauce with garlic and herbals. Served with rice an vegis. But this stupid fish didn't like to come the way I supposed. :(

After dinner we went to the movie. We watched pirates of the carribean III. Fact is, that Jonny is like born for this cast (in pirates of the carribean). But on the other hand, the storyboard in the 3th part is ending nowhere. But something else than the movie took my whole attention for a short time. In the cinema was also a roulette table. IN THE CINEMA, they also rip you off now! :D


Sunday, we went to church. Also not that usual are the plenty of people in there. But to explain this, the kiddz-express also was in there at the beginning. So it seemt like there would be more than usual. But look yourself! It looked like a rock-concert ;)
It's such a pity, that our pastor does make so many advertisment all the time for his church. I'm soon really fed-up with that and look already for an other church around my quarter.


Well after the disappointment in church, because in fact, we (I) want to hear a homily and no advertisment in the house of god, we went home to prepair ourself to go side seeing at the lake of Zurich. On the other side, how does a church grow? I think the only honorable and fair way you can grow as a church is by demonstrate the roulez of God in any situation. -So that other humans can look at you (as church) as a paradigm.

It was such a nice weather on Sunday and Fabienne and I decided to go a little by the lake. And as we where the only one with this idea, we had to search a long time to find a parking place. On one parking, we saw a very seldom car.






The Mercedes SLR! It's a WOW-Car! On both pictures you can find my car (Mitsubishi Eclipse) behind the SLR or on front of it. But it doesn't matter from which side you look at the SLR. The EUR 435'000.- dearer sled looks always better. :)





In the evening we visited Simon and discussed again some life-cycle-duties! At home, we watched TV and went to bed... to make it short, 'cause my boss just came in the office and it looks like he wants me to work right now... :)))

Today's motto: Your decision makes always a difference!

cumulative power

Hi Volks

Yesterday I had once again a day-off because of a public holiday. (Corpus Cristi)

But anyhow, at last I had to go for a non-sense meeting with a customer... 8-)

Nevermind, but as I drove there, I came along a street in my city (Zurich) where all over millionaires live. Look for example to this house above! Behind you can see two other houses / villas! It's really amazing and amusing!

After the 15 minutes-meeting, I've been sent home again, 'cause I could handle the estimated problem in a short-term! So I really got pissed-off on my day-off! :-(

I think it's time for me, to make a balance over the last three months. I have to check-on, if I reached my goals. Did I really improve, or did I worsen? I got to check on the fallowing points:

- Family
- Friends
- Sport / Health
- Finance
- Belief
- G'friend
- Job
- external environment

Family: Am I a the "hub" in our family? Am I a good son, g'son, cousin, brother? To be honest, I feel myself distracted in this area. I communicate with my mom and dad on a weekly base, -with my g'mummy once each two weeks and with my bro' quite often. And with my cousins in Switzerland once in while. With my cousins all over the world... maybe once a month...! But in the end, it seems like I should make still more. All told, I fulfil! Check done!

Friends: I'm in connection with most of them, all time long. At least once a day I here one of my friends... And I believe, I'm a good friend to them. -As they are to me! Some guys I couldn't hold on the contact up all the time. Friends I know already long time, I hear also more than the others, I met later. I should write at least more to my colleagues. An email... Over-all, I also fulfil here! Check done!

Sport / Health: I fail straight down! I just go once a week! At least I should go 3 times a week. So what can I do, to handle this? I got to use again a better time-management. In less than two weeks I go on a cure. And therefor I have to use a good planing. I guess the dates, where I can go would be Mo, We, Fr, ...-maybe Sa. - With Fabienne! Check done!

Finance: I fuck' screw-up! I had already two bonuses payed out and I'm still back in shit. I have to go on with more seriousness. I have to associate and learn new strategies. If I won't, I'll get in real big mess! I'll do action on this area ASAP! This weekend! (can't belief yet, that I snafu this way as a diplomate bachelor of business administration) -Check done!

Belief: Oh I think I'm still on the same niveau. I got my opinion, my perspective on what most people name God. -My belief as a christian still held and holds on. On every single day I think about Jesu. Even if it's just one thaught. But it's on a daily base. Check done!

G'friend: Am I the boyfriend, Fabienne wants? I think, yes! Every time we see us, she gives me positive feedback. She's the girl on my side, now and I the man on hers. We are going to share the time comming. So I look forward on this relationship with her. On a mental base, she opened new perspectives I haven't been used in past and I enjoy it. (Like her leverage to me stop smoking)

Job: I'm on a highest ever! I go steady on and on. Every day I work in the office is also a day I make a deal. A deal on my job means, that I can open the doors to other companies. Making appointments with them and doings sales abilities. Aswell I do the marketing strategies, public relations and research. And on every single issue, I rised up my skills and am now significant an other capacity in our company! So I fulfil! Check done!

External environment: I'm open minded to any person around me. There are people comming to me, I've never ever seen before and do ask me for help. I help them in the only way I can: Find the right questions to their situation in life. It's one of my passions! It's a branch I'm really good in. So all in all, I think to my external environment, I'm a person open-minded, fair, resprectable and without any prejudice! I fulfil! Check done!

Six out of eight points I fulfil. Two I messed up and have to handle them ASAP. Finance on a first priority and than sport / health.

You know, what's driving me the most? In the past days, weeks or months my skills seem to drive-up in any area of my life. More and more I got the feeling of real growth. And how could I set this in? By asking myself always and always the same questions. -That's how I improve. After my questions I give action! Giving action is necessary to make changes. And while doing the action after the right questions, I control, if the outcome is what I expect. If the answer is 'no', I have to change my action. And the more I do this, the more I accept, that people who had the most frustrations and changed their strategy again to go on (standing up over and over again) are beyond the persons with the most success.

I also belief, the more you fail and the more you have to stand up and you do this over and over again, the more you'll get successful!

Today's motto: Don't ever give up! Because you don't know, how near you already are to your personal success!

The 6th June turns hard

Salli Zäme! ;)

It's Wednesday and today I probabely stick all day long on an internal professional schooling. Ergo my one-call-one-deal-a-day I already have done this early morning. ;-)

In a way I feel myself like a piece of ****. Yesterday I was over-exciting with snacks & supplies. Also in my sexual intention I was over-doing ;-) And today I received the receipt! But I can't help, in a other way, I feel myself happy...

I know I'll have to break down on this, so I do a full-stop till end of June 07! At least with the supplies. In fact I gonna start a cure in around two weeks and so I can't go on like before. I don't want to destroy my body or health.

So, in less than five minutes, I have to join the schooling :-( But I'm happy with this, so I can relax through-out the whole day, now... :-P

Today's motto: Distinction comes from the right questions to yourself. Find them in any situation of life!

start keeping in motivation!

Helloooo! :)

Today is a day, where I feel myself really powerful. My one-call-one-deal-a-day held on again.

An other case that's trying to get more attention is the carry-on last year. She wrote me again... -I read it this morning. She want's to underline her commitment to her request yesterday.

And what am I gonna do? How can you handle a situation like this? First I weigh down my situation.

I got a girlfriend that loves me and showes me this in any given situation.
She's a woman, that could bring me farther in my life-cycle. She's a girl, that I adore by heart and sanity.





On the other hand, I got a carry-on, that changed her mind regarding her actual situation. A carry-on, that gave me at the time I needed it, the feeling of being used. But terminated this relationship by not being clear on what she wants.
And now she says, that she's clear on mind and does know, she wants me on every price given!

Well I got to focus on what I want. I want not only a girl on my side, that gives me the feeling of being used. I want someone, who also is a team-member on our own created team! Someone, who bolster and supports me in any lifebelongs (likewise in opposite). And in fact I already got this right now. So in this area, I haven't got any problems.

I'll go to write to her! I want to be straight forward. Tell her, it won't work out! And on the other side, I'll give her the offer, if she got a problem and this problem is the only reason for her contact, she may tell me this and I gonna look, if I can help her. So I can hold my standarts and commit myself to a person, that maybe needs help. (If it's a piss take, it won't fulfil, because my roulez wouldn't give her the chance to...)

Yeah, I think, that's the right way, how to handle this, nor?
(If there's anyone out there, with a better solution, feel free to write me a message) ;-)

Today's motto: Help other in a way, you won't need help by your own in return!