HiU
On Friday my chaps came again along and we battled on PS2 our fortune with Fifa Soccer 2005. One of my favorite games at the moment. But this time, it didn't work out. I was like paralyzed and couldn't figure the joypad. Like a stupid nerv... 8-)
Saturday was quit easy, Fabienne and I visited once again my mum for dinner. She and her new friend Franz sang karaokeeeeeeeee. Fabienne aswell... And I... but just one song...!
Sunday passt away, like a smoke in the air. About noon I brought my babe to the rail-station. She had to go back home and practise on her schoolings. I brought her on the station and drove to Simon... We watched a movie and than I had to leave again, 'cause I had to work! Yes... I had to work... make analyzis for the new benchmarket of our strategy at work :-(
Something bory to tell you...
So finally I went to work this morning and as I got into my office, starting up my PC as I do always, I had an email comming in. An email from a person, I didn't expect at all. It was a note from a carry-on last December '06. She wrote, that she would be clear about her feelings now and she knows, that the only man, that she really can adore and be the man of all dreams would be ME! :-D
It's like 'wow'! Forsaken in December and rebound in June... What shall I say or do? I'm happy with Fabienne. But my manners still tells me to give an action on her letter. I'm not lost, because I'm clear with the one I got and wouldn't do anything, that could compromise the relationship with Fabienne. On the other hand, I want to give my carry-on a respond. Something that gives her a clear hint, that it will all come to nothing and on the other side, tells her to go her own way faithfully.
I tell you, it's really a mess with these girls! Every one! After we brake up, they realize, what they passed by on me and want to come back again. I don't comment this any farther! But to tell you, it's crazy! :-o
So, I have to get on my job. :-D cya next!
Today's motto: Focusing on your goals, makes you resourceful!
Monday, 4 June 2007
Friday, 1 June 2007
New targets to fulfil and what is with Xzibit?
Ciao!
First to be mentioned today, is one of my friends. He met yesterday evening Xzibit! As you can see on the pic, both of them are in good order! :o)
He waited 7hours before Xzibit's concert started on front of the stage! After the concert he waited again about 3hours, before he met him finally. Oli went with three other. As the concert finished, they wanted to go home. Oli asked them: "Are you crazy? You can't go home, when Xzibit is still around here! I'll stay and wait for him. I'll take a pic with him..." Well, those guys fell out of a laughter and told him, it won't be possible. I think you Oli showed them an other! ;-)
Isn't this a perfect example on the one I already preaching? If you belief, that something is possible, and if you rise-up the standart you need in this subject, you can reach anything @ anytime! Oli is a good example. If he would have listened to the others, he never ever would have had the possibility to take a pic with Xzibit. Even more! Xzibit stayed some minutes togehter with him talking! Oli asked him about the change of his commercial sound in youngest past and if it wouldn't be nice to make again 'normal' sound? Xzibit told him, that he's thankful for his input and will toy with his idea. Oli had probabely one of his exciting and best nights ever, because he changed his view! He rised his standarts and his belief. ...and finally was worthwhile!
Tanks, Oli! ;-)
Now, to come on my job...
I just had a meeting with my boss. He told me, that regarding to my skills, he can't tell me anything negative. But he told me, I skate on thin ice. He said, as long I'm fulfilling my targets, no-one ever can tell me anything, but if I risk just one mistake, there will be others pointing on me... :-(
Especially he meant my kind of morale at work. He told me, I take tomuch liberties. "You can't work just starting at 9am till 12.30pm and after lunch you visite a customer, where as soon you finished with him just go home. -That's not professional!!"
Boss, you're right... Lucky me, I fulfil the targets... :-)))
What I'm thankful about, is he showed me finally also how he's expecting me to manage my job. Showed me tools and approaches, that will help me to do my job in a better way. Do it more easy... (So I got a better time-management, where I have got more leisure in the end) :-D
I'm in good shape for weekend. Today I'll go to the gym with Fabienne. Every first Friday in month I can go to my gym with one guest. Terrific, no? And today is exactly this Friday. Later on and this weekend, my plans are working for my office. I have to. I need to be update with what is happening in my department. (As it's the department where I'm responsible for) All other things have to be set back in priority. :-(
Today's motto: The force of belief can move mountains. You have to channel it into the right directions!
Thursday, 31 May 2007
Feeling slack
Bon Jorno
I think, I have been to long awake yesterday evening. I had to work up to 9pm. Than I watched TV with Fabienne. Around 11.30h pm. Florian wrote me a message to remind me to drive him next day to the airport. So I went earlier to bed then usual, about 0.30 am! But this morning I had first to come into the office, to send a mail to my boss (some analyzis-sheets had to reach him before 9am.).
Florian has to go to a Kung Fu meeting in Bulgary. He's club is pushing him all the time to join those occasions. But what he can't see, is that his trainer hasn't to look after some other body's life. I mean, his life is also very exciting. Travelling all over the world but has to pay it by himself and doesn't get anything against.
I want to get this more clear: Per year he spends about CHF 10'000.- (By an estimated income from about 60'000.-) for these Kung Fu occasions all over the world. He's young and may still want to see as much from the world as possible. But on the other side, he wants to build up something in economic way for his future life. Further he spends tomuch Benjamins for his tuned car. But wants to but some savings for his own flat, one day... As you know, there are always again and again other costs coming on one (taxes, insurances, gifts, etc...). And he especially hasn't got the control where the Benjamins go lost. Well, he will never get anywhere.
And today morning, on the way to the airport, we were talking about this. And you know, what is more worse on this? -I couldn't give him any hint. Because I can't handle it any better. :-(
Right now I feel myself to sluggishly to do anything... So bored and lazy. But what did I expect with less then six hours sleep?! ;-)
I'm not in the mood to do any deals today. But on the other hand, I have to! Well, I should... ;-))
And this afternoon I have to attend a lecture. Later this evening I should visite a presentation of an economic doctor, regarding spectographic messurement of waves in textforms. (yeah, I know exactly what's in your head: "Sounds like trying to answer a rule of proportion stoned!" -right? :-) )
Well, I got a full program today...
...Today's motto: Go on and on, like the time you're in. If you do, you can master both of them! ;)
I think, I have been to long awake yesterday evening. I had to work up to 9pm. Than I watched TV with Fabienne. Around 11.30h pm. Florian wrote me a message to remind me to drive him next day to the airport. So I went earlier to bed then usual, about 0.30 am! But this morning I had first to come into the office, to send a mail to my boss (some analyzis-sheets had to reach him before 9am.).
Florian has to go to a Kung Fu meeting in Bulgary. He's club is pushing him all the time to join those occasions. But what he can't see, is that his trainer hasn't to look after some other body's life. I mean, his life is also very exciting. Travelling all over the world but has to pay it by himself and doesn't get anything against.
I want to get this more clear: Per year he spends about CHF 10'000.- (By an estimated income from about 60'000.-) for these Kung Fu occasions all over the world. He's young and may still want to see as much from the world as possible. But on the other side, he wants to build up something in economic way for his future life. Further he spends tomuch Benjamins for his tuned car. But wants to but some savings for his own flat, one day... As you know, there are always again and again other costs coming on one (taxes, insurances, gifts, etc...). And he especially hasn't got the control where the Benjamins go lost. Well, he will never get anywhere.
And today morning, on the way to the airport, we were talking about this. And you know, what is more worse on this? -I couldn't give him any hint. Because I can't handle it any better. :-(
Right now I feel myself to sluggishly to do anything... So bored and lazy. But what did I expect with less then six hours sleep?! ;-)
I'm not in the mood to do any deals today. But on the other hand, I have to! Well, I should... ;-))
And this afternoon I have to attend a lecture. Later this evening I should visite a presentation of an economic doctor, regarding spectographic messurement of waves in textforms. (yeah, I know exactly what's in your head: "Sounds like trying to answer a rule of proportion stoned!" -right? :-) )
Well, I got a full program today...
...Today's motto: Go on and on, like the time you're in. If you do, you can master both of them! ;)
Wednesday, 30 May 2007
Starting on a building lot
HiU
As I entered my office today, I almost fell into a shock. All over IT - Freaks on work! One moved all furniture around. An other just disabled my phone! Again an other asked me for my notebook, so he can back-up it with new programs. -Crazy! :-)
I couldn't work for about 2 to 3 hours! I just sitted there in my office amazed from their doings. 8-)
But I had time to make some research. And I also thought about the situation yesterday with Simon. You know, he's a good guy. Unfortunately he isn't a master in setting priorities, yet. I can empathize good in his person. I'm trying to go once in to his perspective, okay:
"I have to do different thinks coevally. Search for a new job. Do my present job in complete satisfaction to my employer. Look after my school - belongs (apply, select, pre-inform, etc...). Handle my divestiture. Go to physiotherapy. My household. My environment. And now I still have to handle the bookings for the vacation. It's quite a lot that comes at once, nor?"
(-> Important; the fallowing is my own perspective again!)
Okay, with all those issues, I have to do them on the correct order. I need a plan. Somewhere where I can see, what I have to do 'step-by-step'. Because I'm in danger of overdoing things. In one week I can hold all those issues in a perfect way. Like in this week I can knock the sox of, with full vitality and 100% mental force in absolute clearence. But I can't hold this standart
forever! Why? Well, I got limits. Limits that holds my back again. And why do I have this? It starts with my standarts, with my beliefs. Something in me does not confirm, that I can hold this niveau longer, or constantly. Probably it's a dismatch with one of my old standarts. Something I already got used to it. Something in me took already as habit. And there we go on now! I fuck' have to change those habits, because they don't bring me any farther! That's heavy! How can I change them and in what shall I change them?
I have to change my old standarts. In fact, in my particular situation, I have to rise them. I have to be clear with my goals and I have to commit now and forever no longer to be the same in this situation or with this habit. It's one decision! And it's just this single decision. If I really want to change this habit, I have to decide it. And this decision really has to be honest. Not trying, just doing it. On every single day! Again and again, like a training! As soon I fall back into my old habit, I break through-out with breaking patterns. And here finally I give an example:
"I'm used to come into my office and start up my computer and in the meantime I look in my 'inbox' if any important issue came in. And as my computer is on and all programs are started up, I go usually to check my mails. And in the past, after checking my mails, I locked in to a chat. See if one of my friends are online. Also probabely, they are! And I used to chat with them till noon. I completely forgot my work!
-This habit can be utterly devastating. This can be a reason for dismissal. And it also doesn't bring any assets to me, nor to the company.
So what can I do? Break the pattern! I changed the order of these habits. I just do it the same way as before, but don't go into the chat. I left it away. I go into the chat maybe in the lunchtime. But no longer it's in the same sequence of starting-up in the morning. What did it help? I'm productive in the morning! I close deals with new customers and enjoy the new responsibilities I received. I'm growing. Now I used 27 years to get this point in action. But to tell you, better now, than never! ;-)
This is all about my view. If you really commit to start with a new era of life. Than you better do it sooner than never...!
Today's motto: I can change my life with one decision in every situation or moment of life. So, why not?!
As I entered my office today, I almost fell into a shock. All over IT - Freaks on work! One moved all furniture around. An other just disabled my phone! Again an other asked me for my notebook, so he can back-up it with new programs. -Crazy! :-)
I couldn't work for about 2 to 3 hours! I just sitted there in my office amazed from their doings. 8-)
But I had time to make some research. And I also thought about the situation yesterday with Simon. You know, he's a good guy. Unfortunately he isn't a master in setting priorities, yet. I can empathize good in his person. I'm trying to go once in to his perspective, okay:
"I have to do different thinks coevally. Search for a new job. Do my present job in complete satisfaction to my employer. Look after my school - belongs (apply, select, pre-inform, etc...). Handle my divestiture. Go to physiotherapy. My household. My environment. And now I still have to handle the bookings for the vacation. It's quite a lot that comes at once, nor?"
(-> Important; the fallowing is my own perspective again!)
Okay, with all those issues, I have to do them on the correct order. I need a plan. Somewhere where I can see, what I have to do 'step-by-step'. Because I'm in danger of overdoing things. In one week I can hold all those issues in a perfect way. Like in this week I can knock the sox of, with full vitality and 100% mental force in absolute clearence. But I can't hold this standart
forever! Why? Well, I got limits. Limits that holds my back again. And why do I have this? It starts with my standarts, with my beliefs. Something in me does not confirm, that I can hold this niveau longer, or constantly. Probably it's a dismatch with one of my old standarts. Something I already got used to it. Something in me took already as habit. And there we go on now! I fuck' have to change those habits, because they don't bring me any farther! That's heavy! How can I change them and in what shall I change them?
I have to change my old standarts. In fact, in my particular situation, I have to rise them. I have to be clear with my goals and I have to commit now and forever no longer to be the same in this situation or with this habit. It's one decision! And it's just this single decision. If I really want to change this habit, I have to decide it. And this decision really has to be honest. Not trying, just doing it. On every single day! Again and again, like a training! As soon I fall back into my old habit, I break through-out with breaking patterns. And here finally I give an example:
"I'm used to come into my office and start up my computer and in the meantime I look in my 'inbox' if any important issue came in. And as my computer is on and all programs are started up, I go usually to check my mails. And in the past, after checking my mails, I locked in to a chat. See if one of my friends are online. Also probabely, they are! And I used to chat with them till noon. I completely forgot my work!
-This habit can be utterly devastating. This can be a reason for dismissal. And it also doesn't bring any assets to me, nor to the company.
So what can I do? Break the pattern! I changed the order of these habits. I just do it the same way as before, but don't go into the chat. I left it away. I go into the chat maybe in the lunchtime. But no longer it's in the same sequence of starting-up in the morning. What did it help? I'm productive in the morning! I close deals with new customers and enjoy the new responsibilities I received. I'm growing. Now I used 27 years to get this point in action. But to tell you, better now, than never! ;-)
This is all about my view. If you really commit to start with a new era of life. Than you better do it sooner than never...!
Today's motto: I can change my life with one decision in every situation or moment of life. So, why not?!
Tuesday, 29 May 2007
Good at last.
Hellllooooooo :-))
Pentecost past and I could pick out again some good impressions. The fist two days we stayed at my place. I invited some of my friends to watch movies and so on... ;-)
On Sunday, later afternoon we went to Fabienne's place and enjoyed dinner with her parents. Then yesterday I went with my pumpkin to a fancy resaurant. It seem's like it was a nice occasion for her... After this fancy lunch I showed her for the first time, one of my favorite-sports: snooker. I think she has got potential to drive up her skills in this sport. She can recall and think the right way. (How you have to make the next shot, that the other one is on a snook)
I returned about 7 o'clock p.m. at my home again. I had to prepare the presentation for this afternoon's appointment. And as I was on it, Florian asked me, if I would be interested to see Pirates of the Carribean part III (3). Jonny is like born to figure captain jack sparrow. Especially the part, where he's going on the schizophrenic conversation with himself - times 3! :-D
On the bad-side, there we have also a case with our holidays in summer. Simon and I had both a part to fulfil. I had to check out the booking in case we would have gone to Mallorca. He had to check out the booking, in case we would decide to go to Rhodos (Greece). We decided to go to Rhodos. So the issue is on Simon to do the booking.
The decision we made last Sunday. On Wednesday he started to look after. (Nearly late to run on this issue, but nevermind...) As it comes, his internet didn't figure out. He commited us (the other four persons), that his internet didn't figure out and so he couldn't do this bookings. Well as he told it to me, I told him, that I haven't got time to do it and he shall look with Florian. Unfortunately, Florian gave him a similar answer. And now he tried aswell to go to the neighbor's PC and do it from there. But it didn't figure out (for which reason ever) again. Now latest I would have told to one of the other team member, what a bullshit it is and they shall do this booking now, rather it will be to late. But no... he reacted different. Goal dismatched! We're to late for to book now and he yells, he made all he could.
And here I'm not on the same idea. If he would have done really everthing. Than we wouldn't have this discussion now. That's my point! He could have find out the number of this tenderer and called them. He didn't! He could have yelled in a way, where any other team member would have moved their asses. But no... He could have gone to the e-tailer. Also negative... What left? Five persons, who would have wanted to go to vacation and are disappointed right now, because their vacation seem to disappear. It's nearly unpossible to find an offer one month in advance where all five may find something they can afford and the also like to go. Last-minute offers are mostly for one-or-two persons, rarely five!
I hope, that at least he has got enough guts to stand to the shit happened. If he really wants to turn our frustration, he's to find an other offer.
Oh I forgot to mention. The trial with his neighbor was quite a pain in the ass for me. It may be, that the neighbor's internet lag on after he tried it. But today I received an confirmation from the tenderer! Now I should pay € 1002.- for vacation I can't take in any way! Why, you wanna know? Because this prick booked, or better said, fill in the wrong dates. As I called him before, I heared again 1000 of lame excuses. But no solution! I called them (the tenderer) and asked them regarding this bookin... They told me, that I have to pay them anyway, because there was no annulation-insurances made. I told them, it was probably a joke. Because I couldn't fill in the form online over pentecost. I have been away. On a place, where no-one has got internet. And finally I found an other mistake from Simon, that helped me to come out of this shit. He also fill in the wrong address... I leave in the ZIP 8050... he fill in 8850... Lucky me... But to be honest, I can't explain, why so many mistakes for such a simple form could be made. Can't figure it out! Not reliable - not really! :-(
After all those shit I hade to handle the troubleshooting. But I'm disappointed, nevermind if I could bring it the right way back.
And what does this story tell me? What did I learn about? I think, there's no better explanation then my today's motto!
Today's motto: The only way how you can fail is when you quit!
Pentecost past and I could pick out again some good impressions. The fist two days we stayed at my place. I invited some of my friends to watch movies and so on... ;-)
On Sunday, later afternoon we went to Fabienne's place and enjoyed dinner with her parents. Then yesterday I went with my pumpkin to a fancy resaurant. It seem's like it was a nice occasion for her... After this fancy lunch I showed her for the first time, one of my favorite-sports: snooker. I think she has got potential to drive up her skills in this sport. She can recall and think the right way. (How you have to make the next shot, that the other one is on a snook)
I returned about 7 o'clock p.m. at my home again. I had to prepare the presentation for this afternoon's appointment. And as I was on it, Florian asked me, if I would be interested to see Pirates of the Carribean part III (3). Jonny is like born to figure captain jack sparrow. Especially the part, where he's going on the schizophrenic conversation with himself - times 3! :-D
On the bad-side, there we have also a case with our holidays in summer. Simon and I had both a part to fulfil. I had to check out the booking in case we would have gone to Mallorca. He had to check out the booking, in case we would decide to go to Rhodos (Greece). We decided to go to Rhodos. So the issue is on Simon to do the booking.
The decision we made last Sunday. On Wednesday he started to look after. (Nearly late to run on this issue, but nevermind...) As it comes, his internet didn't figure out. He commited us (the other four persons), that his internet didn't figure out and so he couldn't do this bookings. Well as he told it to me, I told him, that I haven't got time to do it and he shall look with Florian. Unfortunately, Florian gave him a similar answer. And now he tried aswell to go to the neighbor's PC and do it from there. But it didn't figure out (for which reason ever) again. Now latest I would have told to one of the other team member, what a bullshit it is and they shall do this booking now, rather it will be to late. But no... he reacted different. Goal dismatched! We're to late for to book now and he yells, he made all he could.
And here I'm not on the same idea. If he would have done really everthing. Than we wouldn't have this discussion now. That's my point! He could have find out the number of this tenderer and called them. He didn't! He could have yelled in a way, where any other team member would have moved their asses. But no... He could have gone to the e-tailer. Also negative... What left? Five persons, who would have wanted to go to vacation and are disappointed right now, because their vacation seem to disappear. It's nearly unpossible to find an offer one month in advance where all five may find something they can afford and the also like to go. Last-minute offers are mostly for one-or-two persons, rarely five!
I hope, that at least he has got enough guts to stand to the shit happened. If he really wants to turn our frustration, he's to find an other offer.
Oh I forgot to mention. The trial with his neighbor was quite a pain in the ass for me. It may be, that the neighbor's internet lag on after he tried it. But today I received an confirmation from the tenderer! Now I should pay € 1002.- for vacation I can't take in any way! Why, you wanna know? Because this prick booked, or better said, fill in the wrong dates. As I called him before, I heared again 1000 of lame excuses. But no solution! I called them (the tenderer) and asked them regarding this bookin... They told me, that I have to pay them anyway, because there was no annulation-insurances made. I told them, it was probably a joke. Because I couldn't fill in the form online over pentecost. I have been away. On a place, where no-one has got internet. And finally I found an other mistake from Simon, that helped me to come out of this shit. He also fill in the wrong address... I leave in the ZIP 8050... he fill in 8850... Lucky me... But to be honest, I can't explain, why so many mistakes for such a simple form could be made. Can't figure it out! Not reliable - not really! :-(
After all those shit I hade to handle the troubleshooting. But I'm disappointed, nevermind if I could bring it the right way back.
And what does this story tell me? What did I learn about? I think, there's no better explanation then my today's motto!
Today's motto: The only way how you can fail is when you quit!
Friday, 25 May 2007
frustrating cash-situation
HiU
Oh how shitty this is... you know this situation?
- You go into the bank and want to withdraw some cash after the salary income. Well, so far no ado! Now you look at the balance and realize, that the month before you had to go into minus, so the cash that's effective on your account already is less. But the bills you've to pay didn't minimize and you pay them and are again without cash... -Isn't this a never-ending situation? Isn't this a typical surviving, than living? To be honest, I'm quite fed up with this. I gonna learn some strategies, how to come out of this case.
- I tell you. I was so dressing down because of this. In the afternoon I had to go to Munich for a symposium. And when I was there, I just backtrack and was like undercover in this lecture. Just thinking all the time, why can't I handle my own money-situation into a better stand? What have I to change and what are my goals? And just in one point I'm really clear! It can't stay the way it is. (In fact, there's also something else on this, what concern's me: I earn more than 80% than all other citizen in Switzerland and still got problems. -And that's unportable!)
So, what am I going to do this weekend? This evening my lovey will cook dinner and mybe later Florian will come again once with a movie! Tomorrow I think we'll go clubbin' in the evening. Saturday church, and Monday (pentecost)... -It still don't know...!
Always and always again, it's so heavy to be an ideal for others, giving good advices to them and be a firm as a rock. When on the otherside I got myself into such small problems... crazy! But there's no other way, than forward going! I reached to far, to go back again! And there I go... again and again... (but at least with a smile).
Today's motto: Life is a bitch, then you marry 'em, then you die! Okay, so why don't you take it with a smile?
Oh how shitty this is... you know this situation?
- You go into the bank and want to withdraw some cash after the salary income. Well, so far no ado! Now you look at the balance and realize, that the month before you had to go into minus, so the cash that's effective on your account already is less. But the bills you've to pay didn't minimize and you pay them and are again without cash... -Isn't this a never-ending situation? Isn't this a typical surviving, than living? To be honest, I'm quite fed up with this. I gonna learn some strategies, how to come out of this case.
- I tell you. I was so dressing down because of this. In the afternoon I had to go to Munich for a symposium. And when I was there, I just backtrack and was like undercover in this lecture. Just thinking all the time, why can't I handle my own money-situation into a better stand? What have I to change and what are my goals? And just in one point I'm really clear! It can't stay the way it is. (In fact, there's also something else on this, what concern's me: I earn more than 80% than all other citizen in Switzerland and still got problems. -And that's unportable!)
So, what am I going to do this weekend? This evening my lovey will cook dinner and mybe later Florian will come again once with a movie! Tomorrow I think we'll go clubbin' in the evening. Saturday church, and Monday (pentecost)... -It still don't know...!
Always and always again, it's so heavy to be an ideal for others, giving good advices to them and be a firm as a rock. When on the otherside I got myself into such small problems... crazy! But there's no other way, than forward going! I reached to far, to go back again! And there I go... again and again... (but at least with a smile).
Today's motto: Life is a bitch, then you marry 'em, then you die! Okay, so why don't you take it with a smile?
Wednesday, 23 May 2007
To hard
Hi volks
Yesterday evening I had an experience, I actually not wanted. Roger's (my brother) girlfriend and I had a extreme battle royal. A hard core blow-up! I met my brother after work for a smoke and some philosophic speach. He and I decided to go to the music-studio's of my brother's "clan" and before this, he wanted to bring the dog back of our father. Because the studios are directly 2 minutes to walk, away from my bro's flat, I waited on front of his house.
And now it comes:
At this time, I had an other friend waiting with me for Roger. As we waited, all of a sudden, his girlfriend stands over the way! Started to yell at us two, as we would be the hardest bum of Switzerland. She blustered, we would be all together drug addicted and would be more out, by going out as any dog she ever has seen and etc...
Well, no-one does talk with me in this way in the presence of my own friends. At this second she outcast my inner beliefs of any manners I ever learned. And guess what happened. If I come in such a situation, I mostly outact the other person. My job is to outact sometimes CFO's and CEO's from the EU - market. And so did I with her. I just slam her at the wall (mental)! And than I realized, that her nervs lied blank. She was on the brink of a mental breakdown.
So I went into the flat and talked to her. Probably in a way, noone ever has talked with her. I told her what the reason of my reaction was. I excused for my reaction, but told her exactly, what busted me out. And beg her never ever to talk with me again in such a way, because I know how I react in such case. Than I asked her, what the reason for her bust was and she told me, that my brother isn't working in the moment. At about noon, he lives the flat and goes out till next morning. Most of time he returns in a special mood, what ever brings him in there... But to make it short. She says, it doesn't matter, if he's all day out. But in the evening, it would be her wish to spend some time with him. -I understand her situation 100%. -As I also told her! But in the same row, I told her, not to let it out on me. Never again! At least not in this way and in public.
Well, I told her, I will talk under four eyes with my bro'. It can't be, that he mutates in this way. And once again, it's on me to give my effort on it. I'll be on this as soon I can find time to talk with him. F**k, such things aren't good! -But necessary!
And what did I learn? I learned, not to outact someone without knowing what really sting him. I improved the way, how to pick up a person, who is in very bad mood, mentally! And did I help her? Maybe - maybe not yet. But latest when I talk with him...
Today's motto: Don't make a mountain out of a molehill! It's never worthwhile!!
Yesterday evening I had an experience, I actually not wanted. Roger's (my brother) girlfriend and I had a extreme battle royal. A hard core blow-up! I met my brother after work for a smoke and some philosophic speach. He and I decided to go to the music-studio's of my brother's "clan" and before this, he wanted to bring the dog back of our father. Because the studios are directly 2 minutes to walk, away from my bro's flat, I waited on front of his house.
And now it comes:
At this time, I had an other friend waiting with me for Roger. As we waited, all of a sudden, his girlfriend stands over the way! Started to yell at us two, as we would be the hardest bum of Switzerland. She blustered, we would be all together drug addicted and would be more out, by going out as any dog she ever has seen and etc...
Well, no-one does talk with me in this way in the presence of my own friends. At this second she outcast my inner beliefs of any manners I ever learned. And guess what happened. If I come in such a situation, I mostly outact the other person. My job is to outact sometimes CFO's and CEO's from the EU - market. And so did I with her. I just slam her at the wall (mental)! And than I realized, that her nervs lied blank. She was on the brink of a mental breakdown.
So I went into the flat and talked to her. Probably in a way, noone ever has talked with her. I told her what the reason of my reaction was. I excused for my reaction, but told her exactly, what busted me out. And beg her never ever to talk with me again in such a way, because I know how I react in such case. Than I asked her, what the reason for her bust was and she told me, that my brother isn't working in the moment. At about noon, he lives the flat and goes out till next morning. Most of time he returns in a special mood, what ever brings him in there... But to make it short. She says, it doesn't matter, if he's all day out. But in the evening, it would be her wish to spend some time with him. -I understand her situation 100%. -As I also told her! But in the same row, I told her, not to let it out on me. Never again! At least not in this way and in public.
Well, I told her, I will talk under four eyes with my bro'. It can't be, that he mutates in this way. And once again, it's on me to give my effort on it. I'll be on this as soon I can find time to talk with him. F**k, such things aren't good! -But necessary!
And what did I learn? I learned, not to outact someone without knowing what really sting him. I improved the way, how to pick up a person, who is in very bad mood, mentally! And did I help her? Maybe - maybe not yet. But latest when I talk with him...
Today's motto: Don't make a mountain out of a molehill! It's never worthwhile!!
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